When was the last time you’ve tried something with your mom? As kids, our moms were the light of our lives, the heroine of our stories, and the one we could always count on. As we grow and evolve so do our relationships with them. We are able to see them as human and connect with them on an even deeper level. With all that 2020 has demanded of each of us, it’s not surprising if your intentions and goals have fallen to the wayside. What better way to come back to your WORD and goals than with your mom by your side this Mother’s Day by inviting her to be your accountability partner!
This is a great way to reconnect with her, try something different, and discover new parts of yourself. This is our guide on the importance of an accountability partner and how to create the best accountability system for you and her! You’ll find journal prompts, information, and a worksheet for you and your partner!
For Moms wanting to create an accountability partnership with your child, you can answer the journal prompts from your perspective on why you want to embark on this journey with your child!
Before we begin finding your partner, let’s come back to you.
- What’s your WORD?
- Do you have any tangible goals or practices that you want to implement?
- How will this goal or practice support your intention?
Your mom is someone you love and trust. She is someone who is your cheerleader but can also be your drill sergeant. Someone who will sit with you on your worst days and celebrate with you on your best days. And above all, she is someone who you can share your darkest shadows and your brightest light. Here are some journal questions that can help remind you why she is the right partner!
- What is your favorite thing about your mom?
- Remember a time when you were at a low point in your life. How did she support you through it?
- How will being accountability partners with your mom deepen your relationship with her?
- Come back to your WORD and your goal/practice. Why is it important to share this with your mom?
BEING A SUPPORTIVE PARTNER
The good thing about being accountability partners with your mom is that she knows you, and the bad thing about being accountability partners with your mom is that she may not be caught up with the version of you that exists today. This relationship has been going on even before we had conscious memories of it so there’s a lot of history! That’s why it’s so important to be clear with how we can best be supported and how we can best support her.
In her book, The Four Tendencies, Rubin shares, “We all face two kinds of expectations—outer expectations (meet work deadlines, answer a request from a friend) and inner expectations (keep a New Year’s resolution, start meditating). Our response to expectations determines our “Tendency”—that is, whether we fit into the category of Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, or Rebel. Knowing our Tendency can help us set up situations in the ways that make it more likely that we’ll achieve our aims. We can make better decisions, meet deadlines, meet our promises to ourselves, suffer less stress, and engage more deeply with others.”
Knowing your own tendency as well as the tendency of your accountability partner will help you know how you are best supported and how to best support your partner. Once you’ve chosen your partner and you both have Your WORD, take the 4 Tendencies Quiz to see how you and your partner can be best supported!
After coming back to your WORD, why you chose your mom, and a few tips on being a great partner, we’ve created a worksheet for you and your mom! This worksheet will help connect with your WHY, how you are best supported, and starting a structure with your partner. We recommend that you share the journey you want to embark with your mom, have her take the WORD Finder Quiz, have her read through this blog, and fill out the worksheet. She’ll find her WORD, her WHY, and what practice she wants to start!
- Share the journey you want to embark with your mom
- Have her choose her WORD (if she doesn't have a WORD, have her take our WORD Finder Quiz)
- Have her read through this blog
- Fill out the Worksheet
After both of you fill out the worksheet, your first task is to share your answers with each other. You can come back to these answers over and over again! We are so excited for you to embark on this journey with your mom! If you find yourself getting overwhelmed with anything that you’re practicing, remember to come back to your WORD, your WHY, and your MOM!
- Find Your WORD and goal
- Take the 4 Tendencies Quiz
- Complete the Worksheet and share with your partner!